Response to Jillian Covey: Phreud and Phantasy

Before I begin answering Jillian's post I would like to say that I am mainly doing so because of her phantastic title. It caught my attention because I found it so humorous. I think it gives us all something to strive for in our titling of things. Also, I liked her question, which is as follows: Do you think that any sexual fantasies should be considered "wrong"? How do you define or support what should be considered inapropriate vs. what is acceptable?

I think very few sexual fantasies are actually morally wrong, if that's what is meant by "wrong." Everything is just a matter of preference. I know some people might argue that slapping/hitting/whipping/suffocating/other stuff of the sort is barbaric/inhumane/immoral/phucked-up/[insert your word here]. I feel, however, that if everyone consents to such things and it's what people enjoy, then it isn't wrong. After all, the same sort of things are involved in ultimate fighting and whatnot and nobody frowns on those guys. The only difference is that fighters aren't (usually) getting sexual pleasure out of being beaten up, and they are instead receiving money--like prostitutes. If pain is what excites people, then they should explore it with other like-minded people. As I said before, if everyone consents and it doesn't go too far (like to the point of hospitalization) then I don't have a problem with it.

On the other hand, because I think everyone should consent to sexual activities in order for it to be okay, I do not think bestiality is okay. Animals cannot consent, and therefore should not be involved in a person's sexual pleasure. Likewise, rape is bad--statutory rape included. If the person you are having sex with is too young to know what sex is, DON'T HAVE SEX WITH THEM.

So I guess that's my quick overview of what is okay during sex and what is not. To round off my monologue I would like to say that we should all be open-minded and not judge what other people are into.

Oh, and as for "supporting" what I find acceptable vs. unacceptable...mostly I support it by doing it. :-p